How would I get more hits to my site
www.anastaciadreams.com

Affilates don't seem to be helping, so if you have a website let me know please.

Where do you currently get your traffic from? At first glance, your site doesn't seem very search engine friendly (especially the internal links).

My traffic from forums, and other fansites.... What do you mean search engine friendly? I use meta tags so that should help

Here is an example of a link that isn't very search engine friendly -
anastaciadreams.com/news.php?subaction=showfull&id=1200333924&archive= &start_from=&ucat=&

Now here is a link that would be:
anastaciadreams.com/news/1200333924

Check with the CMS software you use one whether you can re-write URLs.